Didn't realize it's been about a month since the last time I posted anything regarding my sitch. So here goes, nothing really new to report about the D, have a date coming up that should basically be the day we finalize everything, kids, assets, property, my dog. lol.... Got through Thanksgiving ok, didn't really mind being by myself for the first part of the day while my kids were at W's family. I met my W to get the kids, she wouldn't even look at me as she was crying, I was just happy to see my kids and made sure she saw how good of a mood I was in! I had a great time with my kids and my family. Was out of town the rest of the weekend with my s17 for sports so I didn't even see her.
My new direction in life is starting to become so clear to me as to what I want it to look like it makes it so much easier to get through my rough days! I'm continuing my GAL activities and looking for more things to do, working on my house will take up a bunch of my time once she is out next week. Which now leads me to the last couple of days!
I'll start off by saying my W has acted very different as of late, trying to be more communicative, asking my kids what I'm up to and sending me random texts about nothing, I usually don't respond unless it's about the kids so much as to mention to a mutual friend that it frustrates her that I never respond! The other day we had a real good talk about splitting the parenting time, money, Christmas and so on. She told me that she is having trouble securing the financing for her condo and how she won't have enough money to go on a spring break trip. I validated(as best as I could). We talked about her paying off some debt we accumulated with money she is getting from my retirement funds and she agreed to pay that off after the D is final next month. Had a good talk, looked at her when she spoke and listened, I could see the stress in her eyes!
Then I get a text today wishing my a "good morning" and this is what I did today blah blah blah. She asked me that she was thinking that maybe we should consider a "legal separation"???? A legal separation, not a divorce. What does that even mean? So I had to look it up, and from what I read it sounds like a safety net for her. I didn't respond because I have no idea what to even say, I know where I'm at emotionally with all this and currently there is no scenario that has me trying to save this marriage. Can any one of you help me out because I am more confused than ever.
