Drowning in his crisis

[Gordie]

Hunny,

Common advice here is do not compare yourself to OW ever. Who messes around with a married person? Someone who is being lied to, someone who is lying to themselves, or someone who has no moral compass (or all three at the same time). The dating pool for adulterers is unfortunately large but only filled with people willing to be in that filthy pool (including your H). You are better than that and you know it.