If life gives you lemon....do lemonade

[Lana_71]

Hello own
You might be right but I feel I need to try.
It would be great if he wake up one day and decided he will do anything for his kids but the reality and what I see from stories on the board this does not happen often. It is easier for them to let go and start again... a new family and a new life.


What I think I am doing I am making it more difficult for him to forget the kids which you can see from my stitch he tend to do for months. He says he loves them but does not call them st all. Last call was in May when I travelled . Last time he saw him was a 15 months ago.

I don’t know if he still has his job or not ... just feel like he is lost. But he is communicating with the kids daily now since I started emails so for both of them that is good. He is reading my emails and that is also good. As to the hey friend , not being a martyr, but least of my worries at the moment things have been broken between us long time ago. Note that my emails are sent as hi friend . And signed by friend.

I might bewrong and should have left him to face all his Demons on his own. I am just giving him a small rope to the kids... he will still need to do the job and pull himself up if he wants to take it.

You might think he doesn’t deserve that, we might be so angry with them, we might wish they try harder and more sincere but the reality is they will never do it our way or what we dream of . I find it better to drop all expectation and live everyday on its own and make sure I try to make it a good day for me and everyone arround me.

Thanks a lot for challenging me it is good to stop and regroup . I know you are concerned I might be disappointed possibly... I always appreciate a feedback and sometimes you can see it better than I do being involved. Will keep you posted