I have read parts of that book, and I just have the feeling that it only works when the LD spouse is committed to finding a solution. It just seems to me that if you change the way you address the problems, but she does nothing, then what, DIVORCE? It's all about making choices, but You can not make choices for the other. SO lets say you choose to be great lovers, and the wife does not, then what? Divorce? For some of us, Divorce is the nuclear option, everyone loses, particularly the innocent kids.
