How a treehouse can cost you your marriage 2

[CT1118]

Clyde,

Still there buddy? How was Thanksgiving? I read your posts leading up but had not much time to reply due to my own sitch. I didn't see much on the two boys and the girl, how are those kids? I hope you had time for them in your arms and at your dinner table.

I read about the desires of your WAW to have some type of family thing at the holiday. Not trying to rain sh*t on the Macy's Day Parade, but that's how they talk. They want one foot in your ass and they rest of themselves out the door. Again, check script. In the depth of her absence, my girl did the exact same thing. For that matter, so did someone else's girl here, and someone else's man here, etc., etc., etc. As I was once told, holidays bring out the beast of desire; the desire to be normal, to be alright, to be family. Hope, for your sake, I am mistaken.

'Piecing' not far away, you said? What about 'Peacing' Clyde? As in, have you made peace with you? I doubt it, too close to the cut. Not dismissing your abilities, but also not thinking you have a Wolverine level healing factor for your own psychological & emotional injuries.

Till I hear back from you I will leave it at this...healing takes time and by time I mean days turn into months - perhaps months into years. We have two choices: heal without and heal within. Neither choice involves your WAS, both choices involve you. You can heal before the WAS and WAS can heal before you, but either way a pressure should not be made for one to catch the other. Initially, this is a house built of straw sir, and one bad wolf can blow it down. Build your house out of bricks and do your best not to care whether she has a house or not, much less what her's is made of. Don't quit Clyde, don't quit.