I think it depends on the wayward. Frankly some of them an the way they behave deserve no wriggle room.

I have NO sympathy for cheating at all, that is a line no one should cross. It's unworthy and of poor moral character.

As soon as the LBS says enough then the wayward knows is business time.

I don't believe in snooping although I believe in INTEL. It is different, to know rather than to guess. Once you know you can never unknow. Plus truth darts are different to shaming. It's the behaviour that needs addressing not the person. That is boundary making and I think we are on the same page.


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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW