Kml - No bipolar issues in family and up to this point no behavior like this from him ever, he was a solid stand up guy. OW was the girlfriend of an old friend of his we ran into at a family get together. H and his family hadn't seen the guy in quite some time and OW wasn't with him that day. The next week they went on a day ride with H and a bunch of his family and friends. All was well and then we had our issue. Not long after that the friend and OW split up and then they ran into each other while H was out with other friends. It was the most he had been out in years and he was feeling down and apparently she is very good at making a guy feel better about himself.
GalPal - So very hard to believe what they say. Your rant didn't upset me in the slightest. I have my own often. You are not a Plan B.....none of us are. We are good, loving people who are currently being treated in the most crappiest of ways by people who should definitely know better. I go back and forth on the whole MLC issue also. Sometimes I think it is an excuse for irresponsible behavior and then I look at H and realize he doesn't even look like he used to. His eyes are empty, he looks tired and even his voice has changed. I am seriously worried for him every minute of every day.
peace today - Thank you for the info. One of the first things we did was to seperate finances. He still pays for some things and says he will continue. Not sure how long that will last if he moves in with OW like she is asking. Thankfully our kiddos are older so no worries on that front except for the hurt and anger they are feeling.
Gordie - I hear you but it is hard. OW is just so not what I thought an OW would be like. She isn't stunningly beautiful, she isn't thinner, she isn't that much younger, she has more kids, makes way less money, looks like she has lived a much "rougher" life than I have, drinks a lot, and from what I can tell dates around a lot also. So it leaves me wondering if she is all that then how bad must he think I am.
It is hard to watch someone you have loved pretty much your whole life throw away their marriage, their family, friends, job and their future. Even more so when the trash your future at the same time.
I am glad to have others to "talk" to about this but at the same time I am just so sad and sorry that all of you are dealing with this too.
