I have to tell you that, when I read PM last year, I couldn't wait to use that line on my W: "I am tired of being pathetically grateful." In my case, I told her that I was tired of being pathetically grateful for her agreeing to have sex with me. I told her I was done with her controlling my sex life. What did I expect? Not the reaction I got, which was smiling and nodding, and kind of an "all right!" reaction. Taken aback, I asked her if she expected me to go to prostitutes...I told her no, that I was not looking for sex without love. She got mad then, when I suggested that it was more likely I'd have an affair with deep emotional attachment. That was something she would not abide by.
So why was her initial reaction happiness? Almost like she was proud of me? I don't know. Was she thinking that I was going to stop letting her control my sex life by not approaching her for sex, and just masturbating? (I'd basically been doing that for awhile.). I have no idea, but the moment is long gone now, and I don't know what her answer would be now if I asked her.
I guess I'll try to re-read PM and see if I "get it" this time. I'm a pretty smart guy. I'll probably figure it out.
