What to Do? 5

[chris19]

I'm getting sucked in....

W: "wow alight...really mature. I cant do this anymore"
Me: "i wanted to understand how this conversation would be any different that the one we had before"
W: " if your curious then you could make time or effort to talk to me and respond to me and you havnt. you really hurt my feeling on my bday too and cant even acknoledge it. I dont have anything left to say to you".

what am I doing.....I'm breaking right now...

[chris19]

W: "I'm trying to wrap my brain around the way you've been acting the last two months and cant so my only thought is your done and don't want to be married so that what I wanted to talk about. your lack of effort, responsiveness and thoughtfulness makes me believe that that's correct so i would like to have a convo so we can end things and sign papers."

[chris19]

W" "did it ever occur to you that for the last 7 weeks that i've just wanted to see you, talk to you and hang out with you to see if we could still savor this and find a way to get through this? And that there's not always a reason besides that. But you've left my no choice".

[TBSakaJ9]

Chris......my W did that 1 month ago. Here was my response:

Just let me know what your schedule looks like so we can coordinate a meeting to sit down and discuss.

FYI.....she never responded and we have never discussed.

Remember you have to be willing to lose her if you will ever have a chance to get you back.

Just my 10 cents.

[chris19]

Basically blaming you for "not trying"?

[TBSakaJ9]

No.....she wanted to move forward with D.

[chris19]

ME: "let me know what your sch looks like and we can cord something and discuss"
W: "discuss what"

[chris19]

W: "Am I printing our the papers we need"

[TBSakaJ9]

Dude she is a manipulator.....I wouldn't respond to that BS. She is a big girl and doesn't need you tell her what to do. She is jacking with you.

You do need to block her asap.

[EastTN]

She’s messing with you. She wants you on the hook as a firm plan B and your diminishing attachment is screwing that up for her. Think back through your M and your S. Anger and guilt have been what she uses to contro you. This is just more of the same.

Stay the course. Focus on YOU! Nothing you can say or do is going to improve things. Remember that you’re not the cheater. Remember that you’re not the one that wanted out. Remember that you’ve already told her you’d do ANYTHING to make this right. Why are you going to listen to her when she’s pretending that you’re the one who doesn’t want her?

What more proof do you need that you’re being lied to and manipulated?