Quote: you are really arguing about whose reality will become the dominant reality and whose anxieties will previal.
The real point here is that in this particular case, both partners are in emotional gridlock, and neither one will be able to see the other's POV. This happens because each needs the other to validate their own POV, but neither can do this for the other. That is why self-validation is so important... standing on your own emotional legs. It requires a kind of growth that doesn't happen by chance, and is NOT comfortable, but necessary.
