I would really like some suggestions on how to interact with W, at the current moment its all small talk which either one of us will
How are you doing on that homework I suggested? I think you will get answers to these questions within those links. Don't appear as if you are mad or cold........but rather, kind of preoccupied.
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Should I stop intiating? At this point I find myself asking her stuff that is just really irrelavant.
Have you read the 37 rules? You don't initiate calls, texts, or irrevalent conversations.
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I even see myself as being annoying but when she is around i can't help it. It is minimal but I would think if it was the other way around I would be annoyed.
Of course she's annoyed! It's a huge turnoff. And, yes you can help it! You are in control of yourself.
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Had a question, early on after BD my W would just jump like she was startled every time I enter a room. Almost like she was scared of me, she then started doing this with the kids so much so they started asking me whats wrong with her.
Sometimes, it could be when you nearly catch her contacting OM. But who knows? I have read where some WW's do b/c they are trying to build a false case of "being afraid" of the H.
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For the months of july and august she ate ice cream every single day, not a day went by that she didnt eat ice cream. This was also the time she became very nasty with me. Would anyone like to give an explaination as to what was happening. I think I know but would like to hear others opinions.
Well, I'm guilty of going through periods (especially hot weather) of eating ice cream every day.......but it had nothing to do with my waywardness......or bad behavior. Is ice cream all she ate? It would be just a guessing game on this end. There ere extremely few excuses for nastiness.
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Once again I really am feeling like I want her to move out and start the D process, Why? b/c I am now feeling like what she did is so wrong! Who does she think she is to cause all this damage? ugh...
If that's true, then why would you care how you interact with her and what all her peculiar actions mean? Why would you try to start conversations and be focused on her so much? I suspect this is just an emotion you are experiencing. I doubt you are really ready to call it quits. Being angry at how she's treated you......is not a bad thing. From what I've read, these feelings are all normal for the LBH.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
