WW ended EA 4 mos ago; trying to restore intimacy

[hoosjim]

I have tried to give her the benefit of doubt, but I am concerned that she is being pulled back into that seduction again. It seems that ever since her weekend stay with BFF, she has been "off".

I did a little detective work due to the mounting "signs" of trouble. Checked her texts when she left her phone around, as she often does these days. Bff has definitely been preaching the "You need to pick You", "You and never had those smiles and laughter through the years, and we deserved to" sermon to my W, at least in recent texts leading up to their dinner on Thursday. She's also playing on the lever of my wife's "blueness" around holidays. (W responded to her at one point saying-- "I don[t know if there is any holiday i can recall since i was a kid that is worth remembering"--Ouch.)

I don't like it. She is giving too much excuse for why she's going out that way.......and that looks suspiciously like a smoke screen

At least she brought it up to me, albeit casually, before I had a chance to bring it up (I was not going to accuse her of going there, but just tell her i was troubled by her plan to go out there when we talked and her nonchalance about it). She said, "oh, there's another "store X"... i stopped by there for a few minutes today on the way back but didn't find anything. I did not respond or comment. I'm going to talk to her tonight... about a few things, including that.

In the meantime, I suggest you do something fun with her this weekend. See how it goes.

I may have really screwed this part up. Went out last night and had a REALLY good time... until we both had a bit too much to drink. Had a talk under less than ideal circumstances. At one point she said "well what would you normally be doing with a girl under these circumstances". I tried to kiss her, it was not returned. There's more and will fill you in later, but... not a great ending to the eveining.