I would really like some suggestions on how to interact with W, at the current moment its all small talk which either one of us will intiate. Should I stop intiating? At this point I find myself asking her stuff that is just really irrelavant. I even see myself as being annoying but when she is around i can't help it. It is minimal but I would think if it was the other way around I would be annoyed.
Small talk is fine, but you should not initiate it, or only when necessary. Second, you should break it off rather than try to keep it continuing. Small talk keeps the pressure off the spouse about the relationship, but the interactions keep the path home open, and also serves as an opportunity to show any 180s you might be doing. Besides, since you are living with her, it makes for a more pleasant arrangement for you too. I couldn't imagine being in a house with somebody that I didn't even acknowledge.
