2nd round of court ordered mediation was this week... Nothing has changed in the dynamic between WW and me in the sense that everything is still all my fault and she takes no responsibility for the situation we are in... ah well..
Mediators asked what the problem was between us, W said she didn’t know what the problem was... Her reasoning for taking me to court was to get mediation, not to take custody of the kids away from me...
I also explained in mediation that I would like to parallel parent as there is no respect from W towards me and when I don’t do things exactly as she wants me to do, she lashes out and is vindictive... W is very against this, so when I asked her what she wants, she explained that she should be able to communicate with me at any time of day or night. That all decisions should be mutually agreed on(even if I sign our children up to activities on my days she expects to have a say in that...)
W is playing the victim role as much as she can, she explained in mediation that she is in financial distress and I’m purposely trying to ruin her (not acknowledging she has taken over 1000 Euros from me this year with false claims) Not sure how she works this out when she earns more than I do and has only given me a figure to buy her out of the house last month after moving the goalposts all year.. But all in a day in the life of this crazy.
W also told me (outside of the mediation session) that if I don’t co-parent the way she wants, if I pursue parallel parenting then (apparently) I am going against the law and don’t deserve to have any custody of our children... Yey, the next mediation meeting is going to be fun
Alas, onwards and upwards to the next episode..
I wish I had more advice I could give to newcomers other than buckle in for the craziest rollercoaster ride of your life, but I don’t at the moment other than what most say here. Look after yourself, any kids, GAL and aim to stay calm and let the storm happen somewhere else...
Sandi, if you read this, , I remember reading your links 2 years ago and thinking no, this can’t happen, life can’t get that crazy and bizarre but you are spot on. It’s been incredible to see words you wrote down actually become a reality. There was even a woman I was hanging out with from time to time over the past year or so and I got to the point recently when I felt if we kept hanging out I would want to explore it to be more than friends, she said she didn’t feel the same way but wanted to be friends. I said, sorry but I wasn’t interested in that and I would step away. This has been met, (I’ve heard through some mutual friends) with her being annoyed at me for not just being friends with her... What’s a guy to do..
