Fuzzyfish, I am in awe of you. You are amazing! You are wise beyond your years. To come here, and read a book like SSM, when there's nothing seriously wrong, and when you are the LD partner (and BTW, it sounds like for you, LD just means *slightly* LD) is an amazing act of bravery and proactivity. You and your H are incredibly lucky to have found each other. I wish you many decades of incredible sex and intimacy together. Get PM and read it - it will be your golden key to unbound happiness...