LOL, I know what you mean! I would have to say that we are well connected. I came to be here because I felt there was something 'wrong' with me because I was/am LD. I ordered SSM and we started reading it together. Like I said earlier somewhere, when I asked my H to read it with me his reaction was, 'Why? Is there something wrong?' Although he feels sexually satisfied, I was feeling a gap growing in our SDs. If I hadn't ordered SSM, and if I hadn't started taking action, there's a good chance my H and I would someday be in "the club nobody wants to belong to"! I think our age and the age of our R is a big plus. We don't have a lot of the stresses that most of you have (ie kids, 9 to 5 jobs, meno, MLCs, etc.). So I guess there are several reasons I'm here. I'm learning a lot about how HD people think, and about how the LD spouse affects the HD spouse. If I wasn't learning all this stuff now, again, there's a good chance we'd eventually end up 'in the club.' And since I gain so much from you guys, I like to 'give back' in the way of giving my POV on things. Sometimes what I have to say might not be at all helpful, but there might be a time or two when I surprise even myself and share a valuable piece of info.
BTW, things with me and my H are almost back to normal. And I believe we owe it to all you HDs on here. Hearing your POVs helped me realize that I should just talk to my H about my feelings and frustrations. After reading so much about how much you were willing to do for your LD spouses, I realized that, hey, maybe my H loves me that much, too. And he does! He has made every effort to make me feel sexual again, and we've both been completely open and honest with each other. Fri night we ML, and all day yesterday we felt soooo close to each other. We kept hinting at what the night might hold for us...but at the end of the day we were both tired. My H said, "See? We can both agree to not HS and still have a great day and night together." *sigh* I'm so in love.
