25yearsMLC 10 Later I FILE D part 8

[25yearsmlc]

you guys do know I' waited a year to date at all

and met him in a support group where deep talks are had and speakers come and then later on, the group meets at a pizza parlor and has beer?

I mean, this is not some online guy I met for 4 lunches.

But I am very mindful of how distractingly appealing ANY r can be, let alone when we are wounded.

And I'm not healed and neither is he.


My "thing" is, okay put M on the back burner for now FOR HIS reasons since his 4 year sep won't end in divorce till Jan (unless it gets delayed again. Cross that bridge, when we get to it).

So for the immediate future M is someone who plans to date me after the first of the year when his D is final. Okay, I can tell YOU guys, I'm very fond of M, (truly)

but no way would I turn down a date with someone else if they came along and intrigued me. At this point. I'm trying to make this a year of saying YES to life and not worrying about every freaking step I take and how are the kids and will this cost too much, etc


but regardless of whether it leads to a nice long R of some sort, or not, LATER,

why am I having to be celibate now? Or just "not dating"?? Why not date now if I feel like it?

As long as I'm honest AND AS LONG as I am safe, what's the harm?

My honest question (though funny to me) is what one does with a "casual sex" partner afterwards??

Particularly if it was less than rewarding?