She decided to yell at me after therapy. Didn't engage just listened for a little bit the walked away. Last night I let her sleep in the bed while I slept in the living room.
Did your therapist say it would help your ulcers? Maybe it's just me, but standing there listening to your W yell at you, is not effective action......or healthy. Why not try holding up your hand in the stop signal, and saying, "I won't stand here and be yelled to, however, I will listen if we can talk civilly". That is you stating a boundary, and if she won't honor it, then walk away.
If she won't stop yelling long enough to hear you make your statement, walk away and tell her the next day when she has calmed down.
No he thinks understanding and compassion will help me communicate more efficiently with other people. I am a very blunt person so a lot of times I come across as lacking empathy or emotion. He thinks will help in how I deliver the message.
She doesn't really yell so much as go on what a horrible person I am. He suggested I listen at least once to try and understand where she is coming from.
Her calm down? Not sure she actually does that. More like bottle it up and save it for later. My therapist also wants to talk to her. She discounts therapy and hypnotherapy as a placebo and avoidance.
