AS, thanks for checking in and giving your support.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Why be angry with yourself? It is perfectly fine to be upset about the way she's treating you! You don't deserve it! You're being cordial to her and she's being a B in return. Of course you're going to be upset. Own it! Your feelings belong to you, they are not "right" or "wrong".
I got angry with myself for letting my anger drive my response to her and take control of my mood. I know the feeling itself is not really right or wrong, but it's how I react to the feeling that I have an issue with.
On one hand, letting my anger out toward her is me overcoming my P/A tendencies, and directing the anger back in an honest way. On the other hand, I've been getting a lot of feedback saying my anger isn't really helping my sitch. So I'm trying to find a middle ground. Obviously I didn't do such a great job letting it out since I still reacted badly to her the next morning.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
I think yours is an example of how difficult it can be to give a WAS time and space when you're under the same roof. She's sick and tired of you and every time she sees you it's just a fresh reminder that she's done.
Amen, brother!
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
She's not going to learn to miss you unless maybe there is some distance between the two of you.
Yep. She refuses to move out - I believe her L advised her not to. I blame my state, which does not require a legal S period. (I'm half joking)
