Mr. Fantastic wanted to meet for coffee yesterday afternoon to talk about the custody schedule. He asked for every other week. I asked how that was supposed to work with his travel schedule and he said that “this is the last job like this I want to have” and that he was winding down his travel obligation. We argued about how much he has participated in parenting the children up to now and money came up several times. At one point he even said “You can’t possibly need $xxxx to support the children.” Claimed to not have enough money to get the boys a haircut after I observed he had never even done that much for them, but he has enough to buy a house that costs almost double mine, and to take his girlfriend to NYC, etc.
I suspect that I will be fighting him about money, or his smokescreen efforts to get out of paying me support, for the rest of the time that the kids are home with me. I feel ashamed of having made choices that makes this part of my child-raising experience, and of my kids’ childhood, though I really hope they aren’t able to detect that element of their dad’s awesomeness.
I note that he probably is doing nothing to provide for their college. Since, you know, haircuts are beyond reach (but a $600k house isn’t).
In other news, the kids and I had a great time with My Guy over Thanksgiving. I hope I am not misjudging him too.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
