Hey board; not going to wish happy bday to WW tomrw. I am totally guessing here; but giving her entitled past and WW’ness it is assumed she will have some choice words for me in a text. Probably guilt tripping mixed with some bullying. I just want to prepare myself to not fall into a trap or do anything which will set me personally back any more. I’m trying to push through this stuff; but it is obvious I am finding it difficult.
Good for you! Mental preparation is key, and planing to GAL. So what if she has choice words? It's like........"You better say something about my birthday, or I'm going to chew you out and call you names". Lovely!
Why don't you block her on your phone, and keep it blocked? What's the worse that can happen............she'll get mad? Is that what bothers you, or the guilt she uses to control you? That guilt is what you need to release. During the M, she used it to get you do whatever she wanted. She uses guilt & anger.......but you don't have to live with it.
There are no kids from the M, so you are in the perfect position to go dark. There is no reason you have to accept her calls & texts.......and leave the line open for her to take pop shots at you. Every time you hear just a few words, it throws you for a loop. Block her........and stay away from her. You will come through it, and feel good that you put the brakes on being verbally bullied.
Chris, you are getting stronger. All you need are a few words of encouragement from us, but you are the one to take the wheel and drive that car. You made me smile when I read how you plan to GAL today. That shows me a guy that is taking charge of his life. I feel better knowing you have friends. ((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
