Fighting my way out of the dark - Part 6

[joejoe1]

H,

I really think you aren't detached. You are still holding out some hope. If you were detached, you wouldnt make those snippy remarks. If you were detached you could handle those interactions a whole lot better.

You really think you wouldn't be sad if your wife died. You know you would, so why is that a hard question to answer. No matter what you are going through, I know you dont want your boys to lose their mother, and if they and didnt show any emotion, you would leave a scar the size of the grand canyon in your boys.

Lets think about this. How did you make your son feel with that answer you gave to him. How does he perceive his dad now? You want your sons to know that their father love their mom. You dont have to be in love with her, to love her and want the best for her. And your boys needs to feel and believe that from their father.

You are leaving a huge scar on your boys in the way you are interacting with their mother. Your W is still their mother and she will always be, if your hurt her you hurt them. No matter what she has done to you, you have to find a way to make the interactions between you and her especially in front your boys betters. They deserve it!

She hurt you, but now you are hurting yourself with all this resentment you are holding on too. HOLDING is a fitting name at the moment, because you are not letting go of all the pain she has caused you. Its time to let go, of this resentment, this hatred, your wife and this old M. You are not saving your self at the moment. You are not becoming healthy. Let it all go! Please, if not for yourself for your boys.

I'm hear when you need me. Me and TXS77 are talking about meeting up. We can try and make it for all of us.