So here's another issue: How do you navigate the "I'm fat" or "I need to lose 15 pounds" minefield with a recovering Ww/WAW? Been hearing this from mine more and more, and seems like a "h just keep your mouth shut" no-win situation. Bottom line my W is a knockout and pretty much everyone agrees."has she put on on 10 to 15 pounds over the last 10 month or so? Idunno, its possible. She says some of her older cute it fits she likes to wear don't fit right now, so I'll take her at her word, but, bottom line is I think she still looks amazing. Could she lose 10 to 15 pounds,without looking emaciated? Sure, I suppose. But aside from being able to "fit" into certain clothes, she definitely doesn't NEED to lose it.

All this is complicated by the previous neglect and her skepticism that my compliments are sincere sometime. (At least they don't piss her off like they did as of a few months ago... she is warming up. Still, what's every ones thoughts on navigating this conversational tightrope? How do you validate and not contradict her feelings while still letting her know and making her feel like she looks amazing?

Last edited by Cadet; 11/29/17 11:05 PM.
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18

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