In all the years of our M, my H and I have always had others in the house with us. That, alone, causes stress on a MR. But when you are having to financially support them or take physical care of them........even good MR's can break down.
I agree 100% about your grown kids! And my opinion about the BIL, is tell him he has till the end of the year to find another place to stay.......if you can stand it that long. Why on earth support an adult that's too sorry to help himself, and complains about the food you feed him?
Don't know why your W is so protective of him, but he's not your responsibility to keep.
I am not really sure what the deal is between the two of them. By action it is almost like she would rather be married to the BIL. Told her that once and was promptly called a drunk and an abuser.
Last night the oldest daughter was supposed to say goodbye to her siblings she she moved out. Of course she was a no show, my WW wouldn't come home because she couldn't handle it.
She wants to co-parents and be friends while living together until after her deployment. Then once she gets back she expects me to just pack up and leave the kids. Personally I want to fix the marriage, if that is not an option then I would have sole or joint custody.
I know if I did as I told by her the fighting would stop. See I want to stop fighting with her. Even doing the GAL stuff, I am starting throw up blood and still losing weight. Get the impression the stress is finally catching up to me.
My life right now is work and taking care of the children. Trying to keep the home stable and loving for my children. BIL hides in his room unless the WW in home in which case they hang out. My role model in life told me you lead by example not with words. If you want respect act in a manner that dictates respect.
I feel like less of man and a person because I miss the love that we had and shared. I know that after this I will be happy again and the kids will be alright.
