I am glad to see that you both have laid some cards on the table. The way I see it, this is a start towards (maybe) a new beginning. It's never too late to start anew.
My question to you is...do you still love the man? I want you to think about that for a while and come back and post.
If you were to begin a new relationship w/your h, what would you like to see him bring to the table, i.e., qualities. What attracted you to him in the first place?
In my own opinion, from all of your postings, I personally think your marriage could be saved....but you both would need to come to the table w/the understanding that you need to discuss the entire relationship and not just when you were distant and his crisis. Both of you would need to look at the entire relationship and begin working on those things that could be repaired. Once that begins, I would suggest that you two date for a while. That means just the two of you, son would need a sitter. The focus must be on the two of you. If, after a while, you both discover that too much time and distance has taken place, then you both can decide what to do about the marriage.
You both will not truly know what you want if you don't start talking and doing things as a couple.
mleigh, this is my 2 cents for the day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
