What should I be doing now? (It's done)

[Coconut]

Sandi, thank you for the support, I spent months dealing with the thought of divorcing and once I decided I was ready I got another 4 months before it was filed, I think I'm as content as I can be that it is what is needed. There is no desire to try and fix things, no hope that she will change her mind, just a readiness to end our legal bond.

As for Alaska, My mom had a trip to Paris scheduled with my dad, he got sick and passed away unexpectedly 2 months before the trip, it was on her "bucket list". I have no interest in going to Paris, but I know Alaska was also also on that list, so I planned a trip for August with her. Two weeks RVing with mom will be time well spent, I'm really looking forward to it.


Tread,
I'm sorry to hear that your D is moving forward, your sitch is still relatively recent and I imagine that your emotions are still really swirling. Just know that they do level out, and when you think you're good, you'll still get better. Your only two years older than I was when I met my wife, you've still got plenty of time to grow new roots and rebuild a new life...

AS,
D is a tough thing to go through, but I'm also looking at it as a way to start moving forward. I would not want to be dating someone and ever be able to refer to another person as my wife, so although I don't have anyone in mind, I'm ready to be free to see that possibility in others that I meet. I do not see anything my W could say or do that would cause me to even consider reconciling, it's just not something I want, I really believe I'm emotionally prepared to get D. Although I do hope that one day I'll be ok with being around her for my sons sake, but I'm not there yet.