Husband gone for second time - new here

[PsySara]

Nicole,
I want to ditto what kml said. Make sure you remain mysterious and hawt! Also, I think the plan of havnig H over to spend quality time with DD is an excellent idea. The goal is to facilitate his relationship with his daughter regardless if it's conventional or not. This builds positive memories with his daughter, allows him to build confidence solo parenting and to associate positive feelings with his child. It's win/win.

Be very careful about suggesting/hinting/advising about IC or any counseling of any sort. Some people just aren't into therapy. My WH is case in point, I dragged him to 2 counselors, to Retrouvialle, had him watch videos on reconciliation. All resulted in burning heaps of failure with a HUGE regression back to his cold and angry shell. Finally I returned to what worked, DBing with joy, detachment and gentleness. He is blossoming under this right now. The WAS does not want any suggestion or hint of agenda, which in my case was reconciliation at any cost. That was a mistake.

So now I am moving forward without any expectations and I am shocked at the consistent turnaround I am seeing in WH. So keep doing what works and strive towards the goal of loving detachment. A lot of vets here can be very strident that there is only one way when the fact is, DBing is about finding the formula to each situation that works and throwing out what doesn't work.