I did actually have my husband stay here at our apartment with our daughter last night and I left to go out. It was much better. She didn't have that fear of wondering where she was going to go and my husband didn't have to 'waste' his time driving around. She could play with her toys and eat the food that I prepared for her. When I returned my husband said it was much better, so at least for now I guess we'll continue with him coming and me leaving.
Ok - so - here's an opportunity for you. You see - the WAS so often wants to think you are just sitting there, waiting for them patiently, their safe "Plan B" in case their new life/new OP doesn't work out. You don't want to date while you're hoping to reconcile - because you don't want to do anything that they can point to and say in reconciliation "well, you cheated too so it's just the same " (when it's NOT).
BUT - it's ok to make them THINK you MIGHT be dating, because sometimes that lights a fire under them to reconcile if they begin to realize some other man could snatch you up.
So - here's what you do: Have H watch her at your house. When he arrives, be dressed up like you would be to go out on a date - perfume, earrings, looking good. If he asks where you're going, just say "Out with a friend" "No, you don't know them" or "Dancing with the girls" Then just go do whatever you were going to do - or if you have nothing to do, go to a coffee shop and read a book or go to a movie by yourself. Just be gone from the house looking like you could be going out somewhere.
Chances are good he'll be wondering where you are and with whom. This can be a good thing, and better than him finally regretting things once you actually HAVED moved on.
Also, after a couple of times, when he arrives have a dozen roses in a vase. If he asks, they're from a "friend".
