Chris, it [censored], and there's nothing we can do about it. I'm having the kids for their first Thanksgiving without W, and I expect she'll take them away for Christmas..... and it blows.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
Gordie just made an awesome comment. You should be proud of yourself. The AC is a stressor, like your birthday is, her birthday, kids' birthdays, anniversaries, Xmass, halloween, and a ton of other dates. They are painful, because they remind you of things passed. The solution is to make new memories, and new dates yourself, for yourself and your kids. I will never forget how I taught my kids to swim, all by myself, how I taught them how to ride a bike, all by myself, and a ton of other things I did, all by myself. The pain of these dates slowly is slowly fading and new memories are flourishing.
Just wanted to say thanks to you directly. I never thought I’d get 50-50 custody of my kids but after a lot of back and forth and inspired by your schedule, stbx has agreed verbally! You might be the most influential person in my life that I have never met.
Hi Gordie. That's great! I'm so glad I could help do something positive on this board instead of just whining all the time.
My first priority is to spend time with my kids. If that means I have to work extra hours or deal with a horrible work commute, so be it. Sometimes I feel as if my W is pawning them off on me, asking me if I want them for an extra weekend because she's been "invited to do something". And sometimes the decision to say yes or no is a difficult one, because saying yes enables a bit of cake eating, but saying no means that I miss out on extra time with them. So unless I have plans that can't be broken, I usually decide to take advantage of the extra time with them.
Today I have absolutely no desire to celebrate Thanksgiving. Last year, on Thanksgiving morning I confronted my W about her STILL being in touch with OM1 and she suggested that we should separate. One year later, we rarely occupy the same space. And we arranged that she would have the kids today so that I could have them on xmas. I'm spending the day with family for a few hours and then hooking up with some friends for the rest of the evening.
...but tomorrow I have off and I'm taking the kids to Six Flags to ride roller coasters until our voices are hoarse!
Monday morning I close the refi loan on my mortgage and hand my wife a check for her share of the house.
Life goes on...
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
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M46 W48 M11 T14 S11 D8 BD: 2016/05/27 In-home separation: 2016/11/23 Nesting: 2017/06/11 W moves out: 2018/01/07 W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12 I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14
M46 W48 M11 T14 S11 D8 BD: 2016/05/27 In-home separation: 2016/11/23 Nesting: 2017/06/11 W moves out: 2018/01/07 W goes public with OM: 2018/07/12 I ask for a divorce: 2018/12/14
