Hi Jim, thank you for coming by my thread, I appreciate it.

In my logical, happy days...which are most days...I know I made the correct choice for me. That my H will never put me first or make changes for me.
Just some days I get jolted by an impersonal text and the pain comes flooding back. I've tried so hard to keep happy and cheerful most days, a down day brings me low and I know I just need to recharge.

It's one down day, tomorrow will be better I'm sure.

My boys have already cheered me up by being them. I don't lean on them or discuss my R problems with them...they know what's going on...but my eldest noticed I was looking stressed and tearful and I simply said I was having a bad day, I didn't know why but I just needed some time. He gave me a hug, made me tea and biscuits...then cooked dinner. My other son came and chatted with me about music and films and I felt better. They are truly lovely young men.

And also, I had noticed a few people had met up, which I know isn't encouraged but they got around it somehow. I think that's great for them!


Me 50 H 48
S 23 S 21 D 19
Together 31 years
Married 25 years
Separated April 2009 Reconciled 2010
Separated September 2017