Wow. Riveting and insightful Blu. I admire your bravery and honesty in telling us about the process by which you are falling for this other man. I think that you are right to follow your heart and I also think that part of the reason why the M hasn't worked is because your H hasn't fully let go of what he did to you, making the basis for the continuation of the M one of sadness. A tepid, forced relationship because it's the "right thing to do". Instead of owning what happened, forgiving yourself and moving forward in a positive direction, with positive energy. You have given me a world of insight into my own situation Blu. I thank you and I wish you the best.