Husband gone for second time - new here

[Caz49]

Hi Nicole,

I wouldn't read anything into the texts (easier said than done, I know) as they blow hot and cold, east and west, back to front and all over the place lol.

My H sent me some long winded texts last week, I got sucked back in to replying...luckily I stuck to finance and Christmas stuff, but still...
Anyway, he hasn't replied to my last text regarding an arrears letter, so I definitely should know better.

Regarding your daughter, I think it's an excellent idea your H goes to IC to learn how to form a better bond with her. But I personally think you should be careful how you suggest it. I don't know, and am hoping someone else can offer some advice.
My H knows he has some work to do bonding with the children but when I brought up IC for him, he got defensive and said if and when he went to IC, it would be his decision only. Since then I've completely dropped the rope on that issue and also told him I don't want to be the go between on any issues with the children.

I know it could be awkward but for your daughters sake, could your H have his visits with your D at your home? Maybe she would feel more comfortable that way.

Is your H suffering from depression do you think or has he always not smiled and hugged your D? She's young and feeling uncomfortable so you do need to talk to H about this and the effect it has on her. But I would broach it in gentle enquiry rather than accusation. Tell him how you believe she feels, but be prepared for him to deny any knowledge of what your talking about.

Do you see an IC? Could you ask their advice on this issue and how best to broach it with your H.