It's very new to me, being outside in the middle of nowhere. I've never really done it before. I absolutely love it though, and I'd love to do/see more.
He had a pint (I'm not a beer drinker), but we both had a couple of single malts to celebrate (the bar had over 100 to choose from). We and some haggis and homemade shortbread along with our incredibly delicious dinner, and he had porridge for breakfast. We saw an eagle and a stag when we were out and listened to some folk music on our way home again. We were all the Scottish cliches rolled into one...lol!
Would I go back to my previous life? No, never. I like where I am and who I'm becoming too much.
I was working with someone else who totally didn't recognise me the other evening. I sent her a friend request on FB and she twigged at that point. She joked that I shouldn't change my look again in case she didn't recognise me again. I'm very happy with that.
I'm about to start work on a very busy December and couldn't be happier. I've managed to build up my savings a little this past year, so that if anything were to happen to me health wise (like when I hurt my back three/four years ago, pretty much a result of the stress of my STBXH's ongoing infidelity), I can take a couple of months off work with no sick pay and without having to stress about money not coming in. I feel much safer and more settled as a result of that.
My mortgage is now almost paid off, after almost 25 years in my house. STBXH is still making the mortgage payments into my account.
After the new year I'll go to the Citizen's Advice Bureau and ask about my situation, re STBXH asking for consent to file back in July, me not replying and it then passing the two year point of separation that Scots law requires for divorce with or without your spouse's consent.
The ideal situation for me would be for the papers he filed to just tick over into the 'getting divorced with or without your spouse's consent' scenario automatically after the two year point. And that I was now on the countdown to D being finalised. But I'll ask. It's free advice you get at the Citizen's Advice, you just have to be prepared to spend all morning waiting at the office to be seen as it's always very busy.
