Just wanted to put in my two sense on the issues with you daughter. If it were me (depending on your state, but many have a one party consent law on recording. I.E. only one person in the convo. needs to know it's being recorded...YOU. Look into that) I'd put my phone on record and pull my daughter aside and bait here into a conversation on why she would day the things about testifying that she did. Ask her why she would make things up and why she would lie. Sounds like she is filled with "venom"and trying to hurt you emotionally. Sit back, listen and ask her open ended questions. You might get some insight into how to start rebuilding that relationship. You might also get some recordings that will come in handy one day in the future should you find yourself the recipient of what she has already told you she would do. If you don't live in a one party consent state, text messages will also do the job just fine.
Thank you I appreciate your feedback. There are things at the home I am starting to realize. First and foremost the other adults / teenagers want their own way. They don't want to work for it. It is expected because they feel they deserve it. Secondly I am sick of being expected to do the work so they can enjoy a life style they aren't willing to work for. My "W" explained it perfectly this morning while throwing a tantrum.
The issues with my daughter has been handled for the moment. Her mother is picking her up tomorrow. We had a very long talk about it. She knows I love her and I am proud of her. Also explained clearly that I don't appreciate her behavior and attempts to manipulate the situation. My BIL who I support and I are about to have another talk about that subject as well. He doesn't work and just takes the kids to and from school. He just did a part time gig and is planning on buying another expensive toy. Though he expects me to go and buy him clothes. I told him since he made money from a job he needs to buy clothes not a toy. So he talked to my "W" about it, who told me I will be buying him both.
My answer which seems to be large reason we fight was the same as always. He is a grown man, he needs to contribute to his own will being or leave. Personally I would prefer to pay for childcare and be broke than support a grown a** man.
