There is a slight update. My husband had a long weekend off from work. Normally he works six days per week. He still didn't do anything extra with our daughter. He still brought her back early on his night to take her. But two nights ago he sent a late text saying "I'm so sorry for everything." Yesterday he called multiple times for different reasons. In the evening he asked if he could come to use the internet (his got cut off temporarily due to a construction accident in the lot next to him). I said yes he could come but we'd be going to sleep soon. He didn't come, but he called again and texted again asking if we were still awake. He sounded depressed.
It's hard to know what that means. Perhaps he realized being alone isn't as great as he thought. Perhaps he realizes he's been a bad father. Maybe he just feels sorry for himself. Who knows. But after months of not having a care in the world about us, and being annoyed by almost everything related to our daughter and I, he seems to be thinking about something.
My husband is supposed to take our daughter again tonight. I'd like to try something different....either cut down his days visiting our daughter to reduce overall contact (and since he doesn't do much with her anyway) or ask if he'd attend a joint counseling session to work on communicating better regarding our daughter.
The one thing that I'm sure needs to change are my husband's visits with our daughter. She doesn't like to go out with my husband and runs to me and holds on tight when he comes to take her out. I don't want to force her to go when my husband already doesn't want to take her. He doesn't even smile or hug her when he arrives so it's no surprise she doesn't want to go.
Any suggestions? In any case I'll keep proceeding with the last resort technique.
