I'm sorry that you find yourself here, but it is a blessing that you did. You will receive advice from people that have seen this a thousand time and been through it themselves. It's up to you if you listen to them, I recommend you do. Right now, you have A LOT of homework to do and I recommend detaching and going dark until you have a foundation of knowledge and a plan with an honest assessment of where you stand. You're confused and in denial of the seriousness of your wife actions and capabilities. Read Cadet's links. This is going to be hard, it won't be over soon, and it is going to get worse before it gets better. But, it does get better, there is hope, and you CAN do this. IMHO, at this point in your marriage, you can only do harm to the sitch. You can't fix this yet. You need to read Cadet's links. Buy the books. There is a long road in front of you so don't feel like you can/should fix this ASAP, but you do need to get started ASAP. Did I mention read Cadet's link? We're here for you. Use this as a place to vent your anger, pain, confusion, hopes, doubts, fears, whatever. We're her for you. May god carry you through.
