I spent Thanksgiving at the house with her and the kids. During the day she was pleasant and it seemed like she was my wife and we had no problems. She did all the normal things for me that she would usually do. Her mood quickly changed at about 6 in the evening. We both were casually talking about going out shopping for stuff for the kids. I loosely recommended that maybe we could go together to get stuff for the kids. She quickly lashed out at me and said "I'm not going shopping with you like everything is ok. We won't be doing this in the future so we no need in doing it now." I could tell she was really itching to get out of the house. After that flare up I told her I was heading back to my apartment 2 hours away so I wouldn't be in her space and making her feel "awkward "I told her I we would just tell the kids I got called into work unexpectedly. I'm work in the medical profession so that would not be unbelievable to the kids. She quickly said "No, I'll just go stay at a hotel" I found that interesting considering how she seemed like she really wanted to get out of the house. After a bit of back and forth between us she said she was going to go to bed but she also told me she was going shopping early in the morning so I need to be prepared to take care of the kids early. She left at about 6 and came home just after 11. Before she came home she asked me if I needed her to bring me anything. I said no and she then asked what I was doing. After she came home I told her I was going out to the mall. She seemed shocked and almost disappointed that I was leaving right as she was coming home. I ended up going to the mall and seeing a movie 2 hours away where my apartment is. I was trying to practice detaching and staying out of her presence because that's what she said she wanted. She text me while I was in the movies asking if I was coming home for the night. I told her no and she went into attack mode telling me how I am a bad father for not coming home and being with my kids.
Why in the world would she care if I came home or not?
Why does she offer little things her and there for me if she wants to be divorced? I mean she asked me what time I wanted to eat on Thanksgiving, what dessert I wanted and what type of green vegetables. I think that's just odd seeing how she wants to be divorced as soon as she possibly can.
Another odd thing is she has text me everyday since she dropped the bomb on me which was Halloween. Some texts are discussing the divorce and others are general small talk. Again, I think this is weird considering how she wants me to be out of her space and wants a divorce.
