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[bhappy2]

Thank you Sandi for your insight and yes you are spot on I worked my butt off providing for my family. Yes the side effect for that was a decline in our alone time and often we were two ships passing in the night. I do know she lost all repect for me and is not attracted to me at the moment.

She went to a L in July and gave me a letter that she wanted a quick and amicable D. She wanted it over ASAP and said when all the children were home we would tell them together that we decided we would get a D. I told her absolutely not and I would tell the children that this was mom's decision and I was willing to work on it . That was July 16th and since then she has not mention D again.

I have been DB since with a couple of mess up's but I am now ready for the D if thats what happens. My sitch now is I do not know what to do, we still do things as a family and occasionally she will do things to help me but there has been no intimacy for over 5 months and I would never even ask her for a hug.

Yes I pay for everything and I also asked her to move out and she declined I really do not now what steps to take at this point. I do not intiate convo's with her and the children really this she is off the rails. When she speaks to them she is all over the map and somewhat irrational with basic thngs.

I have a date in my head that I will file for D myself but I know thats a while away.

Like I have said before I truely believe there is someone else I just cannot prove it, b/c if I could she would have the D papers right now.

Sandi I have read your entire sitch, front to back... I ask you now what should I do and I will follow it. I have the strength to follow through with whatever it takes and I am prepared for D if it comes to that.