I don't have much more to say about the ring issue. It took a long time for my heart to catch up to my decision to stay with my H, however, I did not engage in the activity that got me into the mess in the first place. I did not tempt fate, if you know what I mean. Anyway, I will give her the benefit of doubt this one time.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
