Yeah, I think it would have been a good time to initiate a little snug. When you see her laughing and having a good day, making some body contact, that may be the night to lay closer to her, or go for a hug. If she went cold, at least you'd know to back away.
Having a SSM for a long time can cause both partners to wait on the other one to make the first move.
Just continue to increase those daily non-sexual touches. Gradually start giving her a hug when you leave for work. Then a very light kiss, and slowly go from there over time until she appears comfortable with it. If she doesn't respond warmly, then you'll know she's probably not ready to carry it further.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
