I wish I knew how to convince newcomer LBH's to work at improving themselves and GAL like crazy, fix the things they have control over, and have no expectations from their WW. It's like every guy wears himself completely out, b/c he is working so hard on the relationship. But there is no relationship! It's over. You are like a hampster running on that wheel that gets you no where.
Why don't you stop working on a MR that doesn't exsist? Why don't you start focusing on getting a life.....for real? Enjoy life apart from her. Stop watching her. It's killing you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
