25yearsMLC 10 Later I FILE D part 8

[25yearsmlc]

Look at you! Live it up, girl. You sound pretty crazy over M. I am glad you are still dating otherwise though. Take it slow, like you always tell me.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Thanks Ginger. Yeah, definitely not committing to an exclusive thing anytime soon. I hear you.

M blew 2 tires out last night while I was driving behind him. Scared me and made him mad (big bucks$$) but he did not lose his %h1t, so that was cool.

And I waited 30 minutes before I said "but the upside of this" (about being alive and all....) b/c I did not want to minimize the hassle factor and cost for him.

OKAY I was told by my T to add to my List of

"Must haves" in my men, going forward (or in "The Man") - in no order

1) smarts (& not a weirdo about me being smart)

2) a good heart (some form of belief in God or karma or SOMETHING beyond this world, i.e. a moral compass of a spiritual nature. I'm Christian and most comfortable with that but it's a belief system and spiritually centered life I'm most seeking);


and 3) some sparks.

M is weirdly smart, which I like. Has a good kind heart and is spiritual.

I'm attracted to all that, but really hope the sparks grow. He's not my physical type, usually.

The dance lessons will achieve something, - at least I'll be better at ballroom dancing.
Or chemistry will grow.

H was a strong lead, maybe too strong. Interesting metaphors...and H and I had a lot of sparks and for a very long time.


Dang maybe I'm the one stopping the sparks with M...

b/c M has a salt/pepper beard and looks like a professor AND yes he looks older than me? (OMG could I be this vain?? Is this vanity?)

My sister said "he's not what I was expecting, but he seems smart and kind..."

and my older brother said "he's not your (as in 25) usual type, but give him a chance. He's pretty cerebral and a good guy."

Okay enough paralysis by analysis and time to enjoy.

DIVORCE UPDATE

(sort of)

So the counter offers my lawyers made (based on, btw, the LAW and REALITY)

will probably be rejected b/c, you know, that's my h.

So that stinks but I'm telling you, when i look at the formulas and hear the people in my divorce class in a state that is Not considered as fair as CA, all and I mean ALL of them are getting support for far longer and in higher %. I am NOT asking for much, good grief! It was a 35 year marriage.

And h has already spent one of the 5 years of support I wanted, ON LAWYERS

(could've spent it on the lawyer who gave birth to his kids...= THIS GIRL!)

Oh well....

Have 2 new job interviews leading from my first big one a week or so ago

I need money- cash flow problem looms AND right before Christmas.

OMG I never borrowed money before. It changes the relationship into a weird thing so if I go get my hair done, I worry my sister will mind b/c, I owe her money...

you know?

Anyhow, that's it for now.

And yes I will add to the "Must have in The Man list!"

Guys, from what my T says, we should all be doing this.

Just saying...