Help needed from Far-east.

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While I am here, I still keep in touch with my daughter. I told her I stay for business. She is having an exam next week. So, I might tell her the truth after.

I haven’t told my parent about her affair though. I just told them that my W acting crazy because of MLC. She might have not told her parent either. Otherwise, they should call me.

I can see her through CCTV from my phone and I secretly have her cousin who knows my story (work at the shop) keep an eye on her.


Should I make any contact with my wife? Or I should disappear completely?
If so, for how long? In Sandi’s rules, said that after the affair is ended I should stick around.

Do keep busy. Going out some is fine but once you get what you believe is "no contact" and they are in withdrawal, you want to stick to them like glue (in a non-obstrussive manner). It's fairly easy because once the affair ends, they generally behaved like a depressed teenager and without the constant text messaging and face timing, they have tons of extra free time on their hands but little desire to leave the couch/house. Stick around for a bit and try, best you can, to occupy their time and just be around while not hounding them or forcing conversations. Just be around, picking up the slack while they actually grieve the end of their affair. Too much idle time leads to them feeling further neglected and starving for attention. They will surely either reach out to OM or look for a surrogate (like another OM, or Facebook, or blogging, or wherever they can escape and get some of their needs met).

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