And from what you have posted. Your W needs you more than you need her. You have been there to pick up her broken pieces. You shouldn't do that anymore. Make that laneway smooth, bit no more cleaning up her mistakes.
So I somewhat agree she might come out the outside worst off than you, but it will hurt just the same. But that's the reality of these sitchs.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.