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It finally happened, I had my aha or breakthrough moment.i havecome to realize I cannot control anything but me. I haveeen walking around now for three days with a smile on my face, I feel better,and have accepted my situation for what it is. I worked yesterday, so we decided as a family to do thanksgiving today. I went out of my way to make it a good one and made sure the kids really enjoyed it because this may very well be the lastthamksgiving we will have as a family due to my wife’s refusal to end herA.Christmas as well. She knows how I feel about this, so there is no need to bring anything else up again. Maybe the holidays and the fact that it could be our last will help, but I doubt it. I have oddly enough been working on detachment and strangely enough find it almost relaxing. No more stressing over what she’s doing, what they are planning, is she talking to him, nothing. I find my self ignoring things that previously had me guessing or mind reading. She hasn’t facetimed him in about four days. Previously I’d have sworn up and down it was a sign from god that they were breaking up. Not so now, now I just roll on and do my thing. I got my metal detector back out and I am going to work around some old civil war era house my boss owns, pretty good hobby that I am just getting into again. I’m taking it day by day guys. Took me too long to get here,but of you helped me thru, thanks a million. Iknow the road is long but I’m going down it in a better frame of mind now.