Fighting my way out of the dark - Part 6

[Holding]

Yes, what would it take for you to resolve your anger? Why are you angry?

I've been thinking about this since your post, J9. Here are a few reasons for my anger:

She rejected me.
She a quitter who gave up on our M.
She's selfish.
She's hurt my sons with her decision and this will follow them for the rest of their lives.
She's lied to me.
She's tried to hide assets from me.
She's tried to steamroll me in the D process.

How can I resolve these? I guess just having time to get over it. Having some real remorse from her and admitting the immense hurt she's caused would also help. I've gotten a little of that, but I need more.

I don't think there is OM is there?

There have been several fantasy As (online flirting), and there was at least an EA, if not PA. Her heart has definitely checked out and started looking elsewhere.

Do you feel as though you have lovingly detached without making it look like you hate her and are pissed?

No. I just haven't been able to do that. I've tried, but it's the best I've been able to manage. I suppose as time goes on I might be able to get there.

Can you get to a point to where you take the higher ground and don't let her suck you in emtionally?

This is really my main goal right now in regards to her. She tries so hard to suck me in, and I'm get better bit by bit.