25yearsMLC 10 Later I FILE D part 8

[25yearsmlc]

25, this is probably nothing, but personally, at this point, I'd be really cautious of anyone who uses the L word in any shape or form.

I understand your concern, but it was carefully used, and there was a context. I had just made him laugh really hard. So it does not trigger the same reaction in me that it would normally.

But I know what you mean. Lately I tend to say things like "I really care for" and "I am drawn to", when talking to him.

Because saying "i sure like you!" sounds like I'm in 6th grade. (Or what I'd say if I were about to break up. "I like you as a friend, but...."


Saying "I love you" at this point, even when parts of me feel it, - makes me think,

how can REAL love be formed so fast? I don't know. Seems more like the "falling in love" phase which is not something I trust much.

(Since I think I believe in choice & chemistry & time.)

H & I said the we were in love a few months in, (I was raised to make sure the guy says it first or he'll be scared off, but i felt it and meant it.)
And it kept growing for years and years...

for me, words are chosen carefully & carry weight.

So I hear you, but so far, so good.

FWIW, I care for him & I want to get to know him & then see where it goes. I think I could love him

I'm also the 1st woman he's dated after a 4 year sep, & a 28 year m.

I've had some dates, but he's the first "boyfriend" I'll have had after 13 months of a sep & a 35 year m.

So We are by definition - I guess - "rebounds."

But If i wait 5 years and THEN date, won't the first guy also be my "rebound"?