tate, to give you an idea of what max and sandi are talking about.....
I have a very close family member actively having an affair. She talks about it with me and allows me to pick her mind. She is an alpha female and he is a beta male all the way. What has turned her off about him is his inability to "be a man" She said if he found out about the affair he would probably "ok it" and want o stay married and she said that would be such a turnoff to her. She would want him to be a man about it. Get mad, stand up for himself, not pretend like it isn't happening. What is appealing about the OM to her? She sees him a man.
Of course, I do wholly disagree with the affair, but I think this information is valuable to the LBS.
I hope you begin to regain your self worth and get your balls back!! Your marriage has been over for a long time. You really do have nothing to lose on that front. She has beaten you down so badly. The most valuable thing you can save right now is yourself, and I feel you'll never regret that.
