Journaling ... I think once I realized there is no relation no more. No h will come asking to be forgiven or none of these mature reconciliation or adult talk that we see in the movie. What is done is done and lots of men just forget about their kids and move on with new families. That is real life and most of divorces alienate one parent except the ones were both parents can talk and build a civilized relation not in my case.
The only way to build a relation is either he put the children first no matter what he hears from me or how I treat him. Knowing whatever he does he will disappoint me. Or I put the kids first and stop being affected by his actions and expect nothing... hence what ever he gives is fine just like a neighbour we would never ask them why didnot you call last night.
I continued my emails talking only about the kids. Their daily schedule. Any funny stuff. I donot mention my schedule not my feeling...nothing about me or my family. I think he is listening as he had been sending them daily msg and dropping some hints about his day at work. A lot still of unanswered question which we never ask him about. What is he doing there ? Why has he been so long out of his home? Did he move? Let him talk about it later when he feels good about that.
I am ok with the progress now ... leave it to him to try and maintain his relation with the kids . He was always a very private person who never shared anything with a friend . His relation with his brother and sisters and Mom is also nonexistent . I really hope he will get hold of his life once again I was lucky to have a family and lots of friends to support me and my kids.
M 45 H 45 D1 12 D2 9 BD 04/14 Living two different state Not officially separated
