Notsure what to do...

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Your judge is likely to include spousal support at this point so close to the 10 years anyway.

Let your heart propel you to try save your marriage so you can be sure you tried everything. You can always divorce. Having been divorced myself, I can tell you it's incredibly hard on daughters about your daughters age. My oldest was 6 (now 30) when we divorced. The consequences of divorce are forever, and the kids are the biggest losers in this deal. I would have done things much differently. I Amy have still ended with the same consequence but I wish I had a better relationship skill set. So the DB 'techniques are worth trying with your spouse, even is someone else ends up benefiting from your skill set. I promise you, your daughter will benefit from your improvements.

Happy Thanksgiving! You have a lot to be thankful for!